The Two-Sided Coin

If there's one thing that frustrates me more than any other one thing on this earth, it is easily related to these two verses:

Revelation 3:15-16 - "I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm-neither hot nor cold-I am about to spit you out of my mouth."

When I see this in action in myself or in those who are close to me, it always gives me that feeling in the pit of my gut like the walls are about to cave in and the floor is about give out from underneath me.
It's a sickened feeling too, especially when I catch myself doing it. Guilt swells up to the point where I feel physically ill and depressed. When I see it in my friends it starts a whirlwind of emotions from anger and bitterness toward the events and actions as well as toward them, and also sorrow and remorse because I know where they could be and I am powerless except to watch them slip.
To add to the situation, it's most painful to watch when the one you're observing doesn't care that what they are choosing to do is against what a loving relationship with Christ is like. Speaking reason to someone who's set their mind is like a matador trying to talk a bull into submission.

In Romans 7 (more specifically 7:15-24) Paul talks about how he does what he does not want to do, and what he does want to do, he can't seem to do it. It is the sinful nature that we are born with that compels us to behave like we do and the battle we wage with every step and every action is against that sinful nature. "What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death?" -Romans 7:24. I know Jesus is the one who freed us from the laws of Moses and of man, and I know that any Christian regardless of their actions is well aware of this, but can that fact justify our crude and hypocritical actions? Faith without deeds is dead! It's what we do that defines us as human beings, and the reasoning behind the actions are what define the actions themselves. If we are living for God, then He is the motivation behind our actions, not our own yearnings, desires and self-defined "needs".

If one is not living according to the plans and the relationship that Jesus has set out for them, aren't they then living against the plans of God? And if one is living against the plans that God has for them, can one truly say they believe in the Jesus that is presented to us in the bible? I repeat, faith without action is dead!